A view that makes you cry
Has it ever happened to you? To cry in front of a magnificent view? Does it matter if you are the “emotional type”, or it could happen to anybody? I will try to answer some of those questions in this short story.
Yesterday I went up in the Rhodope mountains and an amazing view was suddenly presented in front of my eyes (you can check the picture and judge for yourselves). After the A-ha! moment, I froze and I started staring at it all, it was too beautiful to be true. What happened next? I shed some tears. Usually we separate crying in two categories — happy and sad. I would like to introduce a third one — crying because you have to. I did not feel particularly sad, or happy staring at the view, but I was definitely overwhelmed by it. The magnitude, the greatness, the colors, everything was too much to bear and I needed to get those emotions out of my system. Some might call it weakness, I prefer not to label it.
So, what’s the science behind it? Mother Nature knows it way better than us and when we cry, our body releases endorphins and oxytocin. Those two hormones can make us happier, can help relieve our pain and improve our wellbeing overall. Another amazing side-effect is that when we cry, we attract people to comfort us and we humans are social beings. Feeling connected and cared for is the biggest pain reliever of them all. But how does this connect with my crying in front of the view? Tears come to rescue when emotions are too much to handle from our body. It does not necessary mean we need to cry, some might scream, punch, or express in many other different ways. Crying is possibly the safest method to get emotions out and relieve our system. Keeping our feelings inside is dangerous and it is time limited. There always comes the breaking point and it is not pleasant, trust me.
From everything I’ve written so far, you probably got an idea that I am quite emotional. You are not wrong — I cry not only in front of majestic views, I shed tears at movies, when listening to music, when reading, sometimes when watching the news. I tend to cry a lot. But there are always two sides of a coin. I can also bottle my emotions, suppress my feelings for years, keep it all inside until I become a ticking bomb. I am still trying to understand why and how this happens, so far I’ve gotten only to the realization that I experience it when I try to tell myself that things are different than they actually are. When I lie to myself, when I try to hold on to things that I should not. I deceive myself and I pay the price at a later stage.
To sum it up, don’t be afraid of crying, you are not weak and you are not soft. At the opposite, you have strong feelings that need to come out of your system and the faster you embrace them, the longer you will enjoy the positives.